and for study michele obama, critics of both say each of you gave better speeches and your husband. what do you think of that? >> well, i don't know if i agree. i think my husband's was terrific. it was different. i mean, we obviously are talking about different things. you want to have more fun and more interesting, you might listen to the women speak because we have an opportunity to talk about family and personal things. if you have to listen to policy which is obviously not as entertaining, you would certainly think that in both cases. neil: do you get a sense in this race, mrs. romney, it always comes down to they have it made. now, in your convention speech you mentioned, it was not always that way. a lot of people have seized on your remarks. meet the press were you said, we have not had a financial struggle in our lives as if you didn't have a struggle. what you said in your speech about, you know, everything else the, it was not that bad. what is the real deal? what was it? >> unfortunately, you know more than anyone how profit can be because people think we have a storybook marriage.